Happy Friday my Lovelies!!
This post is going to be short and sweet bc I have a gazillion things to do before heading off to a little birthday shin dig for one of Charleston’s extraordinarily talented, and most adorable blogger babes, Hillary Conheady of hillheady.com (YAY!).
Up until recently, I had sort of been a lone wolf as far as the local blogger scene. Honestly, I was kind of intimidated to put myself out there, as this can be a super weird industry, and somewhat cut-throat at times (at least that’s what I’ve gathered reading about other people’s blogger drama;)). So even though I hadn’t really co-mingled in person with other local blogger girls, I had been getting to know them the only way people really know how nowadays….through social media, of course;) Then recently we had an event that brought a handful of us local bloggers together, and we had THE BEST time. I had no idea how comforting it would be to be surrounded by women who “get it.” And I mean all of ‘it.’
Of course it’s great to know that many of us struggle with similar uphill battles of the industry (I’m looking at you Facebook and Instagram!), but it was also sooooo helpful to be among a group of women who understand the importance (using that word in sort of a sarcastic way) of pausing before digging into that delicious dessert to snap a pic for instagram, or boomeranging our wine toast like a well oiled machine, and then quickly move on with our conversation about life, upcoming travels, work struggles, etc etc without skipping a beat.
There are sooooo many occasions when I want to capture something for this blog or my instagram, but I can’t tell you how many of those occasions I don’t bc I feel painfully uncomfortable doing so. Almost none of our long-time friends that we hang out with regularly are into social media at all, so I feel like such an idiot asking Michael to take a photo of me while we’re out to eat, on the boat, on even on vacation. When we’re boating, I actually sneak to the front or back of the boat to try to snap some quick pics or vids for stories so nobody sees what I’m doing….AND IT’S OUR FREAKING BOAT, but I still feel soooo uncomfortable bc I don’t want them to think I’m self-centered.
Prior to starting this blog, whenever Michael and I would travel we hardly ever took pics of each other, unless they were true candids, or unless I’d had too much grappa and let Michael take goofy pics of me. Otherwise, I felt so awkward posing for pics. Michael would offer to take my pic in front of significant monuments or whatever, and I’d always be like “Nah…I’m good.” Or other couples traveling would ask us to take their pic, and then offer to take ours, and again….I’d usually be like “No thanks….we’re all set.” So this business of basically photographing and recording my entire life is a HUGE departure from who I really am. I’ve heard the same sentiments from many other bloggers who are equally as uncomfortable as I am with occasionally appearing like a narcissistic attention whore, as it couldn’t be further from the truth. So again, it was extremely refreshing to be around other women who completely understand what needs to be done (for business), and then we seamlessly resume our regularly scheduled ‘normal’ social activities.
In recent years I’ve learned that adult friendships can be really really hard to maintain. Especially when you choose a different path in life than most of your friends (like not having kids). It can take a ton of work to keep those bonds strong, and it just really sucks when that effort ends up being one-sided, but that’s exactly what happens when people are out of sync….priorities change, and life just unfolds differently for all of us. So while I’m waiting for the next 10 to 15 years to pass for my friends’ kids to become old enough to not need a sitter, I’m really enjoying cultivating these new relationships with some likeminded women who are alllll about supporting and motivating each other.
Hope everyone has an amazing holiday weekend!